| random mumble-jumble i think ive come to realize that you can't change people. people are who they are, even if they themselves wish to change. theres just some traits people have that are fundamental to their personalities, and i dont think there is any way to adjust that to their liking. i also think there are 2 types of people in the world -- people you should be friends with, and people you shouldnt. you may not know everyone, but regardless, they could fit into either one of those categories; you just may never have to make a judgement call about which one they belong in. you just need to surround yourself with those good people and hope that they give you the strength you need to get through, even if you dont ask for help or they dont realize that you need it. just knowing that you have those good people should be enough for everything. i think its good to be optimistic. always having a smile on your face helps everyone feel better. but when is it ok to draw the line between optimism and reality? is it fair for you to make that call for other people, or just yourself? ive been trying to figure out at what point do the optimistic people just wear down. how far can someone go trying to make everyone else feel better before they are sucked dry of that hope and have nothing left for themselves? then again, a truly optimistic person would never run out of optimism for anyone. nowadays, i feel that when people ask for help, the advice they're given is almost... stereotypical. its all the stuff they want to hear. how true is it though? why is it that it's so easy to give advice, but it's nearly impossible to take it? sometimes i think that everyone knows the answer to all of their questions, but it's just nice to hear that you have other people around you who are there to offer their support. is it bad to be independent? some people think it is, others beg to differ. no one is perfect, so you need others to help pull you along. but how long can you go leaning on someone else's shoulder? you can say the best way is to have a mix of the two, but nothing is ever clear-cut 50/50. its always a juggling act trying to figure out where to place the "mixing point," but then again, this all goes back to my 1st thought -- you can't change how people are. if people dont want to talk they wont. if people are used to depending on friends for help, they will always ask. everything revolves around the fact that every individual has a unique personality, and they will think, act, and decide everything accordingly.. and no one can really change that. so, what do you do? |
